Other people may spend many years learning about and exploring their sexual orientation. In some cases, those early romantic feelings reflect a person's sexual orientation. For example, it's common to have your first romantic feelings in early puberty by having a crush on someone. Some people first become aware of their orientation during the preteen and teen years. The way someone becomes aware of their sexual orientation can vary from person to person. How people find out their sexual orientation This is different from deciding not to have sex with anyone (abstinence or celibacy). Asexual-not sexually attracted to any gender.Pansexual-attracted to those of any gender.Bisexual-attracted both to people of their own binary gender and to those of the other binary gender.Gay-attracted only or almost only to those of the same gender.'Binary' is the idea that there are only two genders, male and female. Heterosexual-attracted only or almost only to the other binary (male/female) gender.There are different kinds of sexual orientation. Sexual orientation means how you are attracted romantically and sexually to other people.